I can’t seem to break out of a pattern in which I’m attracted to emotionally unavailable men who can’t give me what I want.
I am 34 and have been single for four years. During that time, I have been on many dates, had two six-month affairs, but have not discovered the new “one” to have a meaningful relationship with. My relationships follow a pattern: intense excitement turns to dissatisfaction and I become subject to emotional abuse. The last one, four years ago, brought more acute and longer-term suffering with a traumatic split, having to separate our lives and home. I desperately want the love of a new partner but struggle to beat patterns of past behaviour. I am dating a caring, intelligent and successful man, but I find myself attracted to emotionally unavailable men who I know can’t give me what I desire.
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