I love him so much but it feels different to my usual crushes and he lives a long way away.
My best friend and I have known each other for more than three years and it’s very clear that he loves me. The two problems are: he lives a good day’s drive away, and I’m not sure how I feel about him. I love him so much as my friend, but I just can’t tell if I have romantic feelings. It’s not as obvious as my usual crushes have been, but maybe that’s the difference between love and a crush? My family tells me that he loves me – and he does – but in a toned-down way. Should I explore this relationship, even though I don’t know what I feel and there’s a huge distance?
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