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Private Lives Podcast: My husband and I live as friends – not lovers. What can I do?

We had a healthy sex life, but as soon as we tied the knot it stopped. We have only had sex three times this year and I worry that this is more than a phase.


I married my husband almost four years ago. Until then, we had a healthy sex life, but it switched off overnight. I put it down to me (an English woman) marrying a Sikh man and moving in with his rather traditionalmother. But although we now have our own home, we still rarely have sex (we have managed maybe three times this year). I love my husband, but feelas if we are two friends living together. I have addressed this with himmany times, but he refuses to see it as a problem. He says we just need more time, but I worry that this is more than a phase.

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